arghhelp http://arghhelp.com Tips on everything. Sat, 21 Feb 2009 08:21:17 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 Be Unstoppable http://arghhelp.com/?p=83 http://arghhelp.com/?p=83#comments Sat, 21 Feb 2009 08:21:17 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=83 Listen to Kerli’s Walking on Air. And never let anybody hold you back. Major props to you Kerli

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]]> http://arghhelp.com/?feed=rss2&p=81 0 Relationship Insurance http://arghhelp.com/?p=64 http://arghhelp.com/?p=64#comments Tue, 25 Nov 2008 01:07:05 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=64 Step 1: Find 3 things to complement your partner on every day. Step 2: A few times a week, ask your partner how they are feeling. Step 3: Spend at least 1 day a week apart from each other. This shows a few things. The first is that you see them in a positive . . . → Read More: Relationship Insurance]]> Step 1: Find 3 things to complement your partner on every day.
Step 2: A few times a week, ask your partner how they are feeling.
Step 3: Spend at least 1 day a week apart from each other.

This shows a few things. The first is that you see them in a positive way, the second is that you have a genuine concern for their well being, and the third is that you need time to yourself to avoid bickering about stupid things. I will try to implement this and see how it works.

]]> http://arghhelp.com/?feed=rss2&p=64 0 Confidence http://arghhelp.com/?p=61 http://arghhelp.com/?p=61#comments Thu, 13 Nov 2008 17:30:01 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=61 Most of my problems stem from my low self confidence. Here is an article that has some good things to say about this issue. Most of them are common sense but even so, they are things that I tend to forget about when they are most important.

Other things that help me a lot . . . → Read More: Confidence]]> Most of my problems stem from my low self confidence. Here is an article that has some good things to say about this issue. Most of them are common sense but even so, they are things that I tend to forget about when they are most important.

Other things that help me a lot and almost immediately (like within a day) are getting enough sleep, exercising, eating well, hot showers, tea, positive people, laughter, being alone for a while and just chilling. I’m an introvert and I guess I just recuperate by having a little time to be alone.

]]> http://arghhelp.com/?feed=rss2&p=61 0 Technique for Arguing http://arghhelp.com/?p=59 http://arghhelp.com/?p=59#comments Thu, 13 Nov 2008 17:25:26 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=59 I don’t remember where I read this but one day I found a technique for arguing. The idea is to hold hands with the person you are arguing with. I guess it’s supposed to keep the conversation “real” or keep it from getting too heated. It’s hard to hide your feelings that way because . . . → Read More: Technique for Arguing]]> I don’t remember where I read this but one day I found a technique for arguing. The idea is to hold hands with the person you are arguing with. I guess it’s supposed to keep the conversation “real” or keep it from getting too heated. It’s hard to hide your feelings that way because you can literally feel what the other person feels in their hands. Well, I had an opportunity to try it out and I was surprised at the results. The person I tried this with and I had a lot of tension between us due to a fight a few days earlier. For me, I had a lot of feelings that built up inside me for a few days and the second I tried this technique, it all sorta spewed out. I started bawling. Which is fine because I felt a lot better afterward. My partner said it brought out a feeling of wanting to run away but also seemed slightly calmed by it.

]]> http://arghhelp.com/?feed=rss2&p=59 0 Ground Rule #1 http://arghhelp.com/?p=46 http://arghhelp.com/?p=46#comments Sat, 01 Nov 2008 18:19:24 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=46 Rule number one for this blog: if you have something serious you want to say it might be a good idea to let it stew “behind the scenes” before you post it. Save it as a draft only and we will know to just look at it for what it is, and not take . . . → Read More: Ground Rule #1]]> Rule number one for this blog: if you have something serious you want to say it might be a good idea to let it stew “behind the scenes” before you post it. Save it as a draft only and we will know to just look at it for what it is, and not take it as a personal insult. When you feel confident that what you are saying is completely from the heart, then post it.

]]> http://arghhelp.com/?feed=rss2&p=46 0 An Exercise in Communicating Your Feelings http://arghhelp.com/?p=44 http://arghhelp.com/?p=44#comments Sat, 01 Nov 2008 18:18:17 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=44 This is a very short article with a small exercise to get you thinking about how to express your feelings effectively. It’s called an “emotional vocabulary.” I notice that a lot of time I have trouble finding the right words to describe my feelings, intentions, thoughts, etc. just because I have never really thought . . . → Read More: An Exercise in Communicating Your Feelings]]> This is a very short article with a small exercise to get you thinking about how to express your feelings effectively. It’s called an “emotional vocabulary.” I notice that a lot of time I have trouble finding the right words to describe my feelings, intentions, thoughts, etc. just because I have never really thought about having an accessible library of words to describe them.

My Answers:

1. 5 words related to feeling sad: unhappy, blue, gloomy, depressed, spiritless
2. 5 words related to feeling mad: ticked, irritated, vexed, angry, furious
3. 5 words related to feeling glad: content, joyful, blissful, delighted, pleased
4. SAD + MAD = upset, grim, resentful, sore, bitter
5. GLAD + SAD = confused?

I don’t really know any words that describe number 5. I’m not sure you can truly be both happy and sad at the same time. You can have mixed feelings or be confused about how you really feel. Or maybe you have different feelings about certain aspects of a given situation but have “mixed feelings” about the situation as a whole.

In general, there are way too many words to describe these basic feelings. And as odd as this sounds, I noticed that while looking for synonyms for sad, mad and glad, I was actually experiencing each emotion. That teaches you something about surrounding yourself with positivity.

]]> http://arghhelp.com/?feed=rss2&p=44 0 Let it go http://arghhelp.com/?p=42 http://arghhelp.com/?p=42#comments Sat, 01 Nov 2008 18:17:19 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=42 This is another video about how your past causes problems and how let go of the past, therefore eliminating the source of support for the problem.

]]> This is another video about how your past causes problems and how let go of the past, therefore eliminating the source of support for the problem.

]]> http://arghhelp.com/?feed=rss2&p=42 0 Relationship Learning Cycle http://arghhelp.com/?p=39 http://arghhelp.com/?p=39#comments Sat, 01 Nov 2008 18:16:00 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=39 At first I didn’t take this video seriously but the more I watched it the more it resonated with me. It is geared toward people who feel they are holding a grudge or resentment or have trust issues with any person you have a fair amount of history with.

. . . → Read More: Relationship Learning Cycle]]> At first I didn’t take this video seriously but the more I watched it the more it resonated with me. It is geared toward people who feel they are holding a grudge or resentment or have trust issues with any person you have a fair amount of history with.

]]> http://arghhelp.com/?feed=rss2&p=39 0 Breaking Old Patterns http://arghhelp.com/?p=32 http://arghhelp.com/?p=32#comments Sat, 01 Nov 2008 18:10:32 +0000 arghhelp http://arghhelp.com/?p=32 At first I didn’t take this video seriously but the more I watched it the more it resonated with me. It is geared toward people who feel they are holding a grudge or resentment or have trust issues with any person you have a fair amount of history with.

. . . → Read More: Breaking Old Patterns]]> At first I didn’t take this video seriously but the more I watched it the more it resonated with me. It is geared toward people who feel they are holding a grudge or resentment or have trust issues with any person you have a fair amount of history with.

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